Yesterday I co-facilitated my first substance use disorder process group at my new internship and it was eye opening. There are so many emotions that can be associated with these types of groups and the impact from social stigma that can often live in the background doesn’t help. As expected, I learned a lot from this first session. By the grace of God, I have never suffered from a substance use disorder. And despite that, I still had a main takeaway that I had never considered:
“It’s not just about not using, it’s about living a better life.”
We are taught that addiction is a choice and that could not be further from the truth. The action of using is a choice, but no one chooses to (figuratively and in too many cases literally) lose their life to addiction. Instead, we should understand that people are whole human beings with whole lives and whole experiences that lead them down a multitude of paths and for some, that path includes addiction. Addiction to substances, sex, alcohol, food, social media, the list goes on and on.
It’s easy to think “Ugh, if she just got her shit together and stopped binge eating then she’d be happy” or “If they just stopped using they’d be in a better place” without taking into consideration why people choose these outlets in the first place.
Taking away the drug, the food, the drink without addressing the cause is pointless and doesn’t focus on the more important issue: one’s quality of life. Society doesn’t teach us to consider that.
I started my studies as a grad student thinking that the main problem for those struggling with addiction was their drug of choice I now know that their substance misuse is an extension, a symptom if you may, of the main problem.
To anyone in any type of recovery, I hope you know that yes, it’s a marathon you’re running. And over time it will get easier, but today, tonight, tomorrow, please find those bite sized moments of joy that keep you going in the now. The chance at a better life is yours to be had.